On Time and Heart Space

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family, heart, letting go, patience, reason, space, time

A few months ago, I started hearing the word in fragments of mother-daughter conversations in my home. She had been physically out of school since spring break this year, and we had been mostly self-quarantined for several months until school officially ended towards the end of May. No summer camp. No meeting up with friends. No getting together with cousins. I guess, somewhere along the line, she decided that the home – or rather she, wanted another dog to give her and our seven year old puppy some company.

And so her search started with online portals, spreading the word among her friends, calling local shelters and so on. Her  requirements were fairly stringent and that shortened the list of possibilities considerably. Almost every other day, Mom would help her put in adoption applications when there was a “match” online. A few days later the email would come, saying that the “match” had already been adopted. Week after week, I could see her getting more and more disheartened. 

“Give it some time, honey. Be patient, and it will happen. The puppy you are supposed to get will show up.” Supposedly comforting words from a Dad who had tried to discourage her from the idea from the very beginning. I wasn’t sure that she was “ready” for another dog in the house. More like I was the one who wasn’t ready. So, after eight weeks of this roller coaster of applying and being denied, it seemed like she let the idea go for a few weeks. Mom kept making phone calls, leaving messages for folks.

Then, one lady from Indiana called back on July 1st afternoon and said – yes, there is availability. Possibility. Hope. 

So, we decided that we were going to make an eight hour roundtrip to see if things would work out. A few hours later, another phone call. A lady whom my wife had called six weeks ago was on the phone. She said that one of her puppies was ready to be re-homed. In the course of the conversation, we came to know that our current seven year old had the same bloodline as the one that she was trying to get re-homed. Not only that, she lived two hours away and she could bring the puppy to our home the next day as she was going to be passing through Cleveland on a road-trip to north-west Ohio. 

Too good to be true, yes? If I hadn’t been witness to all of it myself, I would have said “no way” too. The combination of yielding time and space to a heart set on a love-driven desire can allow for the universe to work in our favor. On July 3rd 2020, virtually seven years to the day that we adopted “Tucker” ( who was renamed “Bubbles”), we received his sister “Flower” (who was renamed “Bindi”). Unfettered joy, some tears, a lot of broken sleep patterns, and a huge rearranging of our lives has happened in the past week. 

In the small, last minute Zoom meeting on Friday, I asked Lucille – so, what’s new with you? I hadn’t told them any of this story yet. She said, “I just got finished reading the book – ‘When the Heart Waits’ – by Sue Monk Kidd. She talks about giving yourself the ‘chrysalis time’ in your life – time to let the caterpillar develop into the butterfly (of creativity).” How appropriate, I thought. Giving yourself time, allowing the universe to work in harmony with you when you sometimes feel as if the whole world is conspiring against you, your heart and your goals and dreams…

Chrysalis time for the heart and its space, the heartspace that is our constant companion. I dug up an Osho essay where he spoke about time, reason (the mind), and the heart:

Time exists only for the mind, for reason. For the heart there is no time; the heart exists in timelessness. So, the mind insists on haste, hurry, urgency – and the mind becomes tense. Things should happen instantly – such is the insistence of reason. But the heart knows no time, there are no clocks for it. That is why the heart exists timelessly and it can wait — infinitely. — Osho in Vedanta – The Art of Dying

So, here we are. Life teaches us so many lessons. It invites us to listen with the heart, to allow for our heartspace to simply be timeless. Timelessness invites us to disengage from the daily conflict of opposites. In timelessness, the heart of the caterpillar learns to rest in, allow for chrysalis time.

Kumud

P.S. After a few days, Bubbles and Bindi are starting to play together. His heart has accepted that Bindi is here to stay, that she is part of the family. All of us look forward to their football-like scrimmages at all hours of the day. He may outweigh here by a factor of five (that won’t last long!), but that doesn’t deter her from taking him on with the youthful heart and dynamic energy of one who knows not much about reason, time or space. 

P.P.S I invite you to join our weekly twitter conversation on Sunday, July 12 at 9amET in #SpiritChat. I may share a puppy photo or two with you, and give you the daily update of puppy mayhem. Yes, there will be questions and tea and cookies. It will be good to see some of you after a week’s hiatus… – @AjmaniK

Bubbles – the result, so far, of seven years of all-heart

Challenging Traditions

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challenges, heritage, legacy, letting go, traditions

As one holiday season comes to a close (my inherited Indian traditions) and another one draws nearer (my adoptedm American traditions), I find myself in a somewhat unique positon to compare and contrast the two. At every major Indian festival, I am reminded of some of the traditions of my parents, grandparents, friends and extended family that I grew up with before I moved to the USA. I do have to admit that their color fades ever so imperceptibly over the years.

Over the three decades that I have lived in the USA, I have created a few (holiday) traditions (of my own), to blend with the ones that I inherited. I do have to admit that it is a lot of work to create new, sustainable and meaningful traditions. Only time will tell how these newly created traditions will stand up to the test of our increasingly mobile and fluid landscape of friendships and relationships.

Traditions need not be exclusively associated with holidays, festivals and celebrations. As I evaluate the traditions that have stuck with me the longest, a few salient qualities come to the fore. The ones that have stood the test of space and time are those that promote simplicity, purity, cleanliness and respect in action. I observe them not for tradition’s sake, but because they make a meaningful, positive impact on the quality of my everyday life.

The tradition of silence with which my grandparents went about their daily business, without any fuss or complaint, inspires me to do the same. The reverence that my mother held for cleanliness in all her actions was often the subject of friendly banter – nobody could drink from her mug of tea, use her pillow or blanket, bring shoes into her kitchen, or… you get the idea – and yet it became a tradition in purity that many of us now observe with a smile. Have you inherited any ‘quirks’ of your parents and grandparents that have now become ‘traditions’ for you?

Perhaps the greatest value of traditions is in their ability to lend some measure of consistency and stability to our life-systems. As we face new, and often unforeseen, challenges, we can lean on our traditions for support. At the same time, it is prudent for us to ask questions of, to challenge those traditions that may be past their ‘use-by’ date in our life. How is any meaningful social, economic and spiritual change going to be effected if we calcify our hearts in the name of ‘tradition’?

Hence, the notion of ‘challenging traditions’. They create some challenges. The need/want to pass on and share as many of our inherited traditions. The need/want to let go, with love, of the ones that create more problems than they solve. The need/want to create some new ones with our new neighbors, friends and family. Can you think of any more challenges associated with ‘traditions’?

In closing, I invite you to share your thoughts on ‘challenging traditions’ with us in #SpiritChat on twitter – Sunday, November 12th at 9amET/2pmUTC/730pmIST. We will continue our ‘tradition’ of conversation over tea and cookies in the virtual world. Namaste,

Kumud @AjmaniK

P.S. As I write this, it is a beautiful Saturday afternoon in November. November 11th, to be exact. Armistice Day. Remembrance Day. Veterans Day. A day that marks a traditional, solemn observance of respect and gratitude for those who have fought and served to preserve, promote and promulgate the freedom(s) of many. This is one tradition that is surely worth keeping. Thank you, Veterans!

My walks in the forest are developing into a newly created ‘morning’ tradition for me…

The Spirit of Letting Go and Renunciation

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letting go, renunciation, spirituality

The change of seasons, particularly the onset of spring and autumn, tend to bring into focus the subject of “letting go” in my mind. Back in February, as spring was approaching, we had discussed “letting go” in the context of Making Space for the Sacred with the wonderful Marjory Mejia. Now, with autumn upon us (in the Northern Hemisphere), I felt it was time to revisit the subject of “letting go”, in a slightly different context. That context is renunciation…

Before we delve into renunciation, permit me to tell you a short story about one of the most famous festivals in India, usually observed around this time of the year. The supreme divinity, in the form of Ganesha, the “remover of obstacles”, is celebrated with a special festival. Large statues of Ganesha, some the size of small buildings, are created by devotees who then proceed to adorn them with clothes, jewelry, and other offerings. On a smaller scale, this process is repeated within people’s homes, with smaller statues and rituals. This continues for a period of ten days… And then, on the tenth and final day, all of these statues which had been created with such love and devotion, are taken in huge processions to the nearest water body… and immersed. It is an individual “letting go” as much as it is a collective “letting go"…

So, one may wonder – why go through all the time and expense and energy to create these magnificent statues, if, in the end, the community knows beforehand that they are going to only be around for a mere ten days? Perhaps it is because that, for most of us, we can only know the formless (higher Self) by first knowing it in physical form. Hence, we create these ‘temporary’ physical manifestations of our faith, and when we are done with the physical ‘trinkets’, we let go of them. It is the tangible that eventually connects us to, and helps us appreciate the intangible. It is only when we have known poverty, that we learn to appreciate wealth (or the other way around). It is only when we have wandered in the darkness, that we appreciate the light within us, and the light of others.

But, I digress. We were talking about "letting go”. For some, it may be the physical act of ‘cleaning out our closets’, so we can make space for new wardrobes. Or letting go of the clutter in our offices. Or the clutter on our computers, tablets, phones and other electronic devices. Is it only me or does it not seem to you sometimes that we are ‘drowning’ – not immersed, but ‘drowning’ – in electronic noise and clutter? In a sense, physical letting go is relatively easy for some of us, as compared to the mental letting go – of our beliefs, our addictions, our habits that no longer serve us well, and so on.

I invite you to join me and the #SpiritChat community on Sunday, September 22nd 2013 at 9am ET ~ to give some thought to renunciation. What is that one thing (or set of physical things), that one thought process (or set of thought processes), that one belief (or set of beliefs) that does not serve us well on our spiritual path any more? What will it take for us to let go of them, to renounce them completely?

Perhaps it is time. Perhaps that ‘tenth day’ is here for us – the day of immersion, of letting go, of moving towards renunciation.

Kumud

P.S. For those who are curious, the festival is called Ganesha Chaturthi. Namaste!

Letting Go – Making Space for the Sacred

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letting go, sacred, spirichat, spirit

Spiritchat Guest post by Marjory Mejia

There is an air of renewal and regeneration in the air, a fiesta of sorts in the inner workings of life. Spring signals rebirth, new growth, life force awakening with a sense of enthusiasm, curiosity and adventure. Are you feeling it?

We might feel the calling to tune in with nature and feel part of the natural landscape of life renewing herself. So, how do we get ready to align with springtime and welcome nature’s wake up call?

One way to prepare for new growth is to get our spaces ready, after all, they are the stage sets for the unfolding of our life, sacred mirrors that reflect our evolving souls.

We can bring our attention to the spaces we inhabit and gently prepare them by letting go on a physical, emotional and spiritual level. We release from a place of trust and love and a sense of sufficiency. We let go and purge so we can make space for new life ready to burst open and flow. Thus, we engage in a more sustainable lifestyle, a way of living that keeps the flow of nature going.

“Breathing in, I see myself as space. Breathing out, I feel free.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

What to let go? This will vary from person to person. But there are some thoughts, beliefs, patterns that we can begin to release on a collective level for the healing of our local and global community.

Rebirth as a manifestation of the sacred

As conscious co-creators, we find ourselves awakening to deeper currents of voice, song, and purpose. We notice new life emerging from the depths of our being and nurture this new life with reverence. Perhaps it isn’t new; perhaps it is ancient life force awakening, growing with the new found confidence of a river that finds joy in the free unfolding of its path.

Here are some potential questions for us to reflect upon

• What does spring symbolize and signal in your body, mind, and spirit?
• What comes up when you prepare your space for new life?
• How can letting go be a helpful practice as we prepare for spring?
• Can letting go help us reveal the sacred? in what ways?
• … and more …

Marjory Mejia

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I dream of a world, awakened, connected, inspired. A world, revolutionized—by meaningful spaces that deepen and elevate our sense of what is truly beautiful and possible, in this life. Here’s to poetry, consciousness and love ~ Marjory Mejia

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Marjory is an architect, writer and artist passionate about awakening a sense of sacredness and flow in the spaces, hearts, and lives of her clients & community.When she is not revolutionizing spaces and hearts with one-on-one sessions, she is exploring the poetics of feminine space in her free writings and creating healing mandalas that send ripples of joy into the world. Subscribe to her digital sanctuary & get a beautiful spirit-lifting gift. You can read more about her work at awakening sacred flow.

I invite you to join our discussion of “Letting Go – Making Space for the Sacred” with special guest Marjory Mejia. Please join us and the #SpiritChat community on Sunday, February 24th at 9am ET/2pm GMT on twitter. – Kumud