The Art of Doing Nothing

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consciousness, meditation, nothingness, purpose, relaxation

One annual rite of passage at the start of summer is the making of the ‘reading list’. At my daughter’s school, the ‘requirement’ is to read a few thousand words worth of books from a list of their own making. As her first week out of school came to a close on Friday, she decided that we ought to give the library a visit so that she could get started.

The library, after over a year or so? Well, yes! Paper books. Yay! And I would have plenty of time to browse the “New Books” section because her list was a dozen and a half books long. Maybe I would find a new title on poetry or spirituality. We would see…

Thirty minutes of browsing, pulling and putting books back, and nothing was ‘speaking’ to me. And then, a small hardcover in white that said, “NIKSEN – Embracing the Dutch Art of Doing Nothing”. This was it. How did the library know that I had been exploring the Zen practice of “Wu Wei” or “purposelessness” over the past week or so?!

Needless to say, “Niksen” came home with me and I have been enjoying it. At first glance, the phrase “doing nothing” seems like an oxymoron because it combines ‘doing’ with ‘nothing’. If we are ‘doing’, then it cannot be ‘nothing’, right? The paradox can be resolved by adding ‘without premeditation or defined purpose’ to the ‘doing’. Think of an unplanned, spontaneous detour on a road trip. Or a trip into la-la land as you pause your brisk morning walk to look at the geese and new goslings cross the street. Or…

In moments where we suspend the churn of mental, emotional and even spiritual activity, we can find ourselves in a state of ‘doing nothing’. It is a state of just being. Some would equate ‘doing nothing’ to ‘being useless’. Even if that were true, the Tao philosophy posits that it is the balance between the ‘useless’ and the ‘useful’ that gives meaning to life. The pursuit of ‘being useful’ accumulates stress and tension in our lives. Embracing the useless by doing nothing, even for a few moments, can release stress and renew us.

We have all experienced those moments where we ‘lost ourselves’ to the world as we immersed into nothingness. Gazing at a butterfly landing on the azaleas, watching the kids rolling down the hill at the playground, listening to a favorite piece of music or dozing off in a lounge chair during a beach trip. You get the idea. Doing nothing can be so much fun because it feels like play! So, why don’t we do more of Niksen or Wu-wei?

We have our reasons, real and imagined. We have responsibilities, deadlines, project reports, home-stuff, school-stuff, work-stuff, the stuff of life and death. How are we supposed to find time for conscious nothingness in our busy lives? Maybe we can ask a different question. Where are we headed if we don’t make time to ‘do nothing’ and give the ‘useful’ moments of our life a chance to rest?

Let’s make time. If necessary, schedule time to do nothing. It’s going to be uncomfortable for some of us ‘go getters’. If it helps, let’s consider your ‘doing nothing’ time as a new growth opportunity. Who knows? We may find ourselves niksening in the “what’s new” section of our local library and even discover some new (inner) treasures.

Kumud

P.S. I invite you to join our weekly Twitter chat on Sunday June 6 at 9amET / 630pm India. We will play with the idea of doing nothing in #Spiritchat! Namaste – @AjmaniK

Sunrise happens while we do nothing…

In Loving Remembrance

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love, memorial day, purpose, remembrance, yoga

The act of remembrance is a multifaceted thing. Some practice it in deep silence while others may engage it with sound and fury of music and focalization. Some may pick up a brush, dip it in colors and paint their memories into masterpieces, while others may dance their way across wooden floors in the company of new friends.

Regardless of personal preference, the practice is important because it reminds us of the frailty and fragility of our own life. Remembrance and memorialization have been with us as integral parts of our lives for as long as human memory exists. Thousands of years ago, the Egyptians built great pyramids. Why? So that they could be remembered, not forgotten.

This fear that we shall somehow be forgotten in death is perhaps what drives us to seek a purpose-filled life, a life where we ‘make a difference in the world’ and even ‘leave it a better place’. What could we perhaps do in this life that would make us immemorial? We could begin by remembering why we’re here in the first place.

One simple explanation of this ‘why’ is that we are here to remember love. Not just ordinary, human love, but to partake in the experience of divine love. In the Yoga tradition, this experience can be felt through Bhakti – a deep, constant, immersive remembrance of the beloved in the divine. And yet, this is only one way to love.

The Yoga of action, or Karma Yoga, also leads us to divine love. We simply have to remember to dedicate all our actions to the real doer, the divine. The Yogas of knowledge (Gyana) and meditation (Raja), both have pathways to lead us to the remembrance of the presence of divine love in our lives.

Our greatest spiritual challenge is that of forgetfulness. We forget that the opportunity to experience divine love is available to us in every given moment. Yes, love requires labor. But what if we were to remember to integrate deep immersion, inspired action, experiential knowledge and in-the-moment meditation into our labor of loving?

With loving remembrance, we can develop awareness of oneness, and our lives can become living memorials of truth and joy to all those whose silent sacrifices of life-force have fired our hearts with higher purpose. Let our gratitude flow towards them today.

Namaste,

Kumud

Join us for our weekly Twitter chat, Memorial Sunday (in the USA), May 30 at 9amET / 630pm India in #SpiritChat, as we discuss remembrance and love. Namaste ~ @AjmaniK

The Heart’s Purpose

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fulfillment, heart matters, heartmonth, purpose, significance

Sometimes, you can live a lot of life in a mere five minutes. Sometimes, it may take you five hours, five days, or even five years to life a lot of life. Sometimes, even fifty years may not seem to be enough to live the life that we feel we ought to have lived or hope to live.

Before we go further, let me ask a question. What is the most significant ‘thing’ that you can remember about the last five years of your life? Some will ask in return – well, what do you mean by significant? One way to answer the ‘what is significant’ question is to ask – how well did it align with my purpose? To go further down the rabbit hole, we then ask, what is my (heart’s) purpose?

Purpose can be a very wide-ranging thing. Some of us (ahem) tend to spend a lot of time – a bit more than five minutes – wondering about purpose. Does my purpose need to be something I love (to do)? Does purpose need to align with what the world needs? Does purpose have to focus on what I can make money with? Or can purpose be drawn from my natural talents and what I am good at? 

The four questions related to refining and defining of purpose, so that we can arrive at significance, and what the Japanese have called  Ikigai – a reason for being. 

Ikigai entails actions of devoting oneself to pursuits one enjoys and is associated with feelings of accomplishment and fulfillment – Michigo Kumano

I was pointed to this perspective on purpose by my very good friend, Gopi Maliwal, following a discussion four weeks ago after he had cryptically (and uncharacteristically :)) tweeted… “this is one of the happiest days of my life”. We talked more via DM, and the reason for his “happiest day” became abundantly clear to me. He shared that he felt a sense of fulfillment because he had taken a step “to make his life truly useful”.

The brief conversation made me ask the question – what would give my heart and its actions a sense of accomplishment, of fulfillment, of significance, of having fulfilled its purpose? I further asked – five minutes, five days or five years hence, how much of my living will contribute to bringing me closer to my heart’s purpose?

I invite you to ask some of these questions. If it helps, sit with a loved one in your heartspace and reflect on the four quadrants – what are  you really good at, what is your current work, what does the world need, and, what do you love? What is it that lies at the intersection of the four quadrants? What emerges from the intersection?

Kumud

P.S. Heartmonth continues in our weekly conversation on twitter – Sunday, Feb 14 at 9amET / 730pm India. Join us as we explore our heart’s purpose and share the love. Namaste – @AjmaniK

The heart’s purpose is often revealed by Nature…

On Dreams and Dreamers

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dreams, freedom, purpose, spirituality

For a long time, for what seemed like months, as my morning meditation practice grew, the dreams had stopped coming while I was asleep at night. I have always been a good sleeper, but these dreamless sleeps had taken it to a greater depth of dreamless sleeping. I would awaken greatly refreshed, ready to go upstairs and begin my day with meditation, and so on.

But then, over the last week or two or so, as is the wont of change that often comes suddenly, the ‘dreaming while sleeping’ returned. The seemingly ‘on-the-surface’ yet ‘active’ dreams took me on journeys with long-out-of-touch friends and long-departed family members. How ‘real’ they seemed while I was “in” them, and how quickly they disappeared on the first early-morning awakening out of broken sleep! And as is also often their wont, the more I tried to remember them, the more they slipped through my awareness like water flowing through fingers. And the net result was that I awoke tired, even lethargic.

Lethargy is not this seeker’s friend. Or of the wanderer. Of of the explorer. Or even the sitter. So, being the engineer and analyst that I am, the one whose propensity is to ask “why”, I asked – why did they return? Was it because of my increased work-related tasks, my staying up later and later before bed, the usual uptick in reading during summer, or the general cluttering of the brain? Regardless, I would like to return to my dreamless state, so I can wake up to my previous, non-lethargic, jump-out-of-bed and ready-to-go state?

But, I digress a bit (as is my wont). From a spiritual perspective, our ‘dream state’ goes beyond the surface dreams that occasionally may come. We are immersed in the deep, deep ocean of this great dream that you, the reader, is somehow fundamentally different than me, the writer. And hence, we live most of our physical life immersed in the ocean, like fish in deep water, whose awareness knows only water, and more so, its immediate waters. We may even claim ‘privilege’ of prosperity, of wealth, of knowledge, of (yes) spirituality, over those, some of whom we may even call family, friends and neighbors. We are unaware, or have lost awareness that our differences, our dreams, depend simply on our degrees of manifestation. Is this not simply a deeper dream state that we can perhaps awaken from?

Perhaps this awakening to reality is the purpose of the work of our spiritual practices.

For what is ‘reality’? Is it not the awareness that we ALL are “Infinite, Absolute, Eternal, Knowledge, Existence, Bliss”? If this reality is our truth, then perhaps we can let go of our current dream-state of illusions and delusions. If not, then immersed we shall remain, until, perhaps, grace finds us, ready to return us to a dreamless state.

For no matter how sweet my dreams may be, I feel an awareness, a knowing, that walking in an awakened reality is going to be sweeter than the sweetest of dreams.

Kumud @AjmaniK

P.S. This post was heavily inspired by my stumbling upon the essay, “Vedanta and Privilege” by Swami Vivekananda. Do read if you have a chance. And then join us for #SpiritChat on Twitter – Sunday August 5 at 9amET/ 630pmET. Namaste. – Kumud

What is the the flower’s dream? What is its reality?

On Spiritual Investment

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investment, passion, purpose, spirtuality

What do we tend to invest in? The investment advisors, and there are many of them with perhaps as many different opinions as there are investment opportunities, often ask us to first evaluate our ‘risk profile’. The questions are in the form of a short quiz that asks questions like – “what are your long term and short term goals for investing”, or “what would you do if your investment lost 20% of its value in a month”, and more.

Our answers are then analyzed by the advisor, who then recommends how to make allocations in our investment portfolio. Invest this much in stocks, this much in bonds, and so on. But investing is rarely a ‘set it and forget it’ proposition. We are also advised to keep revisiting our ‘risk profile’ as your life goes through changes, and rebalance our investment portfolio regularly.

So, how do we use this model in our spiritual investments – the time, energy and actions that are available for us to invest towards our spiritual progress? Are we ‘rolling our own’ when it comes to our investment strategy towards our spiritual goals? Or do we have a trusted advisor to guide us? Do we take time to evaluate our spiritual investments when the state of our life suddenly changes? How often do we reevaluate and rebalance our spiritual practice?

I asked all of the above questions, and a few more, two years ago, when my Mother passed away suddenly. There is rarely anything that brings a greater sense of urgency, that the “time is now”, than the loss of a loved one. It brought a new perspective to my spiritual practice. It made me evaluate the ‘risk profile’ of my current spiritual practice(s), and led me to rebalance my time investments in my practices of writing, being in nature, building community, and daily meditation.

Two years to the day and virtually the hour of her passing, I found myself reevaluating my spiritual investments yet again. I found myself sitting across the table, listening to Mitch Albom, of “Tuesdays with Morrie” fame. I had volunteered to drive my (cousin) sister to inner city Detroit, to speak with him about a social investment fund that she is planning to get off the ground. Mitch’s intense passion for making change in one of the poorest cities in America poured out in every word that he spoke. His investment of time, energy, leadership and acknowledgement that his organizations face a huge uphill battle, was apparent during the conversation.

At the end of the meeting, on the drive home, I could not help but ask the question. What am I investing in? What impact is it having in my life, and the life of others? Are the investment returns designed for short and long term returns? Or is it time to rebalance my ‘spiritual action’ portfolio?

I only have questions so far, but I do know that the heart will bring me the answers. I also know this for sure – that the “time is now”, to ask again – what is it that I am investing in with ALL my heart?

Kumud @AjmaniK

P.S. I invite you to join us to discuss ‘Spiritual Investments’ – Sunday, February 18th 2018 at 9amET/2pmUTC on twitter. Namaste, and thank you, for your investment in the #SpiritChat community -Kumud

On Passion and Peace

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passion, peace, practice, purpose

What is my foremost passion in life right now?

Some of us can instantly answer that question. Others may need some reflection to arrive at an answer. Regardless of which category you may find yourself in, it may be useful to try and define the word…

passion: a strong or barely controlled emotion… a state or outburst of strong emotion

The thesaurus suggests some synonyms as fervor, ardor, enthusiasm, fieriness, zeal, spiritedness and fanaticism. It seems clear that our passion, whatever it may be, has the ability to connect us to a relatively high state of energy, action, and emotion. Passion also has the ability to bring us to the edge of, the tipping point of energetic balance in our lives, and leave us there. It can almost seem like the edge of a precipice on our journey.

Whether we go towards higher plateaus in life or fall off the precipice, perhaps depends on our ability to remain focused on our purpose. We have a choice. We can use the energy of our passion to lead us towards the higher ground of compassion. Or we can let the strong emotion of unbridled passion lead us towards anger. We are all familiar with what compassion can produce. So, let us examine what anger creates…

Anger creates a state that steals our Joy. It is like the autumn wind that makes the garden barren. When Joy leaves, we lose perspective. We tend to find ourselves in inner turmoil, as we find that peace is departing too. Anger fueled by frustration, lack of control, leads the passion train. Joy and Peace follow the anger engine. And before we know it, our entire inner emotional train has derailed. The casualties are many.

So, how do we position ourselves so that, at the edge of the emotional passion precipice, we can move towards compassion instead of anger? I believe that it is through practice. With observation comes learning. Repeated and regular observation of our passion(s) and their propensity can become our personal practice. With practice, we can learn how to turn the energy of passion — away from the feelings of unfulfillment, undeservedness, unlovedness, and their likes.

In that great turning away from the precipice, we can then use passion to walk our path of purpose, upwards towards the summit, with joy in every step. And before we know it, the nature’s justice will have returned our gardens and valleys to spring-like bloom. Passion would have then produced three things worthy of celebration – Peace. Peace. Peace.

Namaste,

Kumud @AjmaniK

P.S. What’s your take on passion and peace? Share with us in the comments below. We also invite you to join our weekly twitter chat on Sunday, December 10th at 9amET/730pmIST in #SpiritChat ~ Do join us!

Walking the Cuyahoga Valley – a celebrated passion of mine…

Our Personal Spiritual Mission

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goals, mission, purpose, spiritchat, spirituality

What is my personal spiritual mission?

From time to time, this question returns to me, albeit it may appear in different forms. The word “mission” may be replaced with the word “purpose” or “goal”, or the broader phrase – “why am I here”? This seemingly existential question may indicate a discontentment with the current state of our lives, or it may be part of a periodic evaluation that some of us do to take stock of where exactly we are on our life journey. If the question arises from “a divine discontentment”, it may a manifestation of the motive energy that we need to move forward on our path. If it arises during a process of “self-evaluation”, it may be a sign that we are growing in mindful awareness, and want to make optimal use of the spiritual energy available to us.

Regardless of the origin of the question, the answer may not come easily for most of us. Some of us, who believe in the power of “the calling”, may have decided to be patient and wait for the answer. Some of us, who believe in the power of “the journey is the calling”, may have decided that every step forward brings us closer to the answer. Some of us, may believe that it isn’t even necessary to have the answer, and that the definition of a “spiritual mission” is unnecessary – living “in the moment” is enough – for a “mission” indicates a sense of being bound by space and time, and true spirituality means freedom from space and time.

For the “goal oriented” among us, the actions of “goal setting”, to achieve our purpose, to fulfill our “mission”, can give us a sense of comfort. The “comfort” comes from the self-discipline in thought, speech and action that we know we have to bring into play, if we are to work towards our goals. The “rules of the game” are clear, and the personal and universal “truths” that define our mission are clearer still. These clarities lead to synergy of action between man and nature, making optimal use of our powers of intellect and creativity, to clear our path to spiritual “success”. We learn to control our energy, our mind and senses, we learn to concentrate, and perhaps even meditate, which further helps us to achieve our purpose, our mission.

But what if one is not exactly “goal oriented” or “mission driven”? What is to become of their spiritual growth, their life-purpose? What if one does not have, or has not been able to clarify their “spiritual mission”? What is the path of action for them? Are they to simply resign themselves to being under-achievers in their spiritual journey? Is a “personal spiritual mission” absolutely neceesary to be a spiritual “high achiever”? Or is there an alternate, non goal-oriented, non mission-driven, spiritual journey that is full of truth, joy and enlightment possible for them?

If you have a clear, personal spiritual mission that is guidiing your journey, and you would like to share it with us, please join us Sunday, March 22nd 2015 at 9amET on twitter in #SpiritChat. If you are in the process of clarifying your mission, or you believe that you don’t really even need one, we also want to hear your thoughts. We welcome all of you to join the community, so we can all learn and grow together.

Thank you, and Namaste!

Kumud

On Remembering and Purpose

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humanity, purpose, spiritchat, spirituality

Wendy Wolff of @lettersproject will be our special guest in #SpiritChat Sunday November 9th at 9amET/2pmUTC on twitter. Please join us and learn from her life-experience, as she shares on “Remembering and Purpose”. Please do check out her Letter Writing Project book on amazon and her website. Here are a few thoughts by Wendy on this topic. Thank you, Wendy!

Remembering WHO you are vs. figuring it out WHO you are. As we navigate humanity, freedom can be found when we recall our purpose for being here. There is exuberance and elation that follows. Always joy and relief accompany what our role is in this complicated world. Sometimes it takes years of counseling and coaching to find that space. Other times it merely takes a moment of remembering. What is the power of REMEMBERING your purpose? How do we make it widely known?

Here are some questions to help you reflect on this subject.

Q. Does everybody have a purpose?

Q. Why haven’t we as a society made remembering our purpose of common practice?

Q. How do you remember why you were here and what you were supposed to do?

Q. What can we do to teach younger generations so that they know this?

Q. What blocks people from understanding or remembering their true purpose?

Q. What tools will help them overcome the blocks?

– Wendy

Choices, Purpose and Legacy

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choices, legacy, purpose, spirit, spiritchat

The conversations in our weekly #SpiritChat in the month of October have focused on three topics – our spiritual inheritance (what we receive), defining our purpose and our legacy (what we leave behind). If you wish to catch up, the transcripts for the conversations and the questions asked during the live chat are all available at the individual links or via our archive.

In response to our chat titled “On Purpose and the Spirit”, one of my good friends Geraldine Bown left a very detailed comment on the blog page for the chat. She speaks about her struggle as she tries to choose her purpose. Part of her comment is below…

I was asked if I felt I had missed the boat (of fulfilling my purpose in this life). I said – no – I’m just worried I might get on the wrong boat. So, for now, I wait and cultivate patience and notice what comes across my vision to see if it resonates

So, we talked about inheritance, and then about purpose, and how, if we follow our purpose, we can perhaps leave a worthwhile legacy. However, Geraldine’s comment made me contemplate – what if we have multiple choices (which we often do) to determine our purpose? How do we choose? What determines our everyday choices? How do we choose our actions that may affect us, and those we influence, in the medium and long term? Are we simply making choices on what makes us (and those around us) feel good? How do our choices affect our spiritual life? What happens if we decide not to choose?

Some choices we live not only once but a thousand times over, remembering them for the rest of our lives. -Richard Bach

It is perhaps in our daily choices that we can manifest our purpose, make the best use of our spiritual inheritance and create a long-lasting impact, or, if you choose to call it so, a legacy. I invite you to join the #SpiritChat community on Sunday October 28th at 9am ET / 2pm UK / 6:30 India as we examine the subject of choices – and how they affect our purpose going forward into November.

Be well. Make some worthwhile choices.

Kumud

Update: Here is the pdf version of the chat transcript for download. Also see the questions asked during the live chat on our topic of Choices, Purpose and Legacy. Enjoy!

Q1. "We are the sum total of our choices." Agree or disagree? Why or why not? #SpiritChat 

Q2. Think of a tough choice you have made recently. What guiding factor(s) helped you? #SpiritChat 

Q3. How do our choices affect us as we (try to) define and live our purpose? #SpiritChat 

Q4. What are some consequences of delaying/refusing to make choices? #SpiritChat

Q5. How can we ensure that our choices withstand life's storms? Or can we? #SpiritChat 

Q6. How does your spiritual side impact your ability to make life choices? #SpiritChat

Q7. How do our choices affect or reflect our purpose? Our legacy?  #SpiritChat 

Q8. Design your mantra for November. I choose to.... ? #SpiritChat 

On Legacy and Spirit

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inheritance, legacy, purpose, spirichat, spirit

Our first two conversations in the month of October have been on our spiritual inheritance and on having a sense of purpose. The conversation on inheritance was in the context of what we receive – from those who influence us. The chat on purpose was about the how and why of having a sense of purpose and how it empowers us. I believe the conversations about inheritance and purpose would not be complete without a conversation about our legacy – in the context of what we create, not for ourselves – but, to leave behind.

I think most people have this innate sense, if not a driving desire, to leave the world in a better place than how they find it. This driving purpose influences a lot of the creative arts, science, inventions and, to some extent, discovery and exploration. As a scientist, folks often ask me – why do we really need to go to Mars? It is a good question. One could answer – well, we need to go there because it’s there. Of course, the rational answer could be that the human need for exploration is what has led to the widening of our horizons over the centuries. And we are perhaps running out of things to explore, here on earth 🙂

But I digress. The reason I mention exploration is that it is perhaps one key to the subject of legacy. We may need to explore, connect with, and understand our inheritance (the values, culture and beliefs that were imbued in us) in order to arrive at a sense of purpose. Once we arrive at purpose, what moves us forward to action? Surely, it cannot be restricted to a simple desire to make ends meet and live a comfortable life. Once we have accomplished that simple desire, what then?

It is perhaps then we have explored enough of the outside that we explore within. The great journey begins as we try and identify with our true legacy – that which derives from our heart and spirit. The more we explore the true reasons behind why we do what we do, the more our purpose becomes clear, and the closer we come to performing meaning-ful acts and actions. We position ourselves to create a living legacy.

Do you think about your legacy – what you will leave behind or be remembered for? What is the connection between legacy and fame? Or is ‘being remembered’ really not that important to you, as long as you are living a life of purpose in the here and now? How can we really leave a legacy beyond the physical realm? Or can we? What do you think your true legacy is going to be? Is it tangible or intangible?

If you have read this far, and would like to explore this topic some more, I invite you to join the #SpiritChat community on Sunday October 21st at 9am ET / 2pm UK / 6:30 India. Come share your legacy with us – or discover how you can create a meaningful one with heart and spirit.

Kumud

Update: Here is the html Transcript for the chat. Here is the pdf version for download. Also see the questions asked during the live chat on our topic of legacy. Enjoy!

Should we begin? Q1. In a personal context, what does the phrase "leaving a legacy" mean to you? #SpiritChat 

Q2. Is creating a legacy important to you? Why or why not? #SpiritChat 

Q3. A desire to leave a legacy satisfies the ego, not the spirit. Agree or disagree? Why? #SpiritChat 

Q4. What is the connection between fame and/or wealth - and legacy? #SpiritChat

Q5. How can our spiritual practice help us create a legacy - living or otherwise?  #SpiritChat  

Q6. Once created, what actions do we need to take to preserve our legacy? #SpiritChat 

Q7. What do you think your legacy will be (tangible or intangible)? Do share. #SpiritChat

Final Q8. What actions can we take in the coming week to enrich our legacy? #SpiritChat